Behind every great chick flick there’s a man rolling his eyes. And behind one of the greatest, The Notebook, there’s the star Ryan Gosling suggesting the film set “unreasonable standards” when it comes to relationships.
Ryan has called his new film, Blue Valentine, a “companion piece” to The Notebook, but it’s the differences between the two films that made him want to be a part of this love story.
“Working with Michelle [Williams] was a big appeal, working with Derek [Cianfrance],” Ryan told IFC on what was appealing to him about Blue Valentine. “I also had been a part of one of those big romantic movies and — this is a long time ago — people would come up to me and tell me that they thought it was romantic, but one guy told me that he was engaged and [his fiancée] broke up with him after that movie because she said to him, “You wouldn’t build a house for me, would you?” He was like, “Well, no, but I don’t know how.” She said, “But if you knew how?” He said, “No, I wouldn’t. But it doesn’t mean I don’t love you.” She said, “Yeah, it does.” And she called it off.”
And that made a lasting impression on Ryan.
“If you see some of those movies, then you look at your own romance and it doesn’t compare, you think, oh, what I have isn’t love because that’s love.”
But Blue Valentine attempts to do the opposite.
“And our hope, I think, in making this movie is that you will recognize your relationship in this, maybe not to this extreme, but on certain levels, and go home and realize that that’s really what it is,” Ryan explained. “We hold ourselves to unreasonable standards, it’s probably why a lot of times we don’t stick it out.”
Do you think Ryan has a good point?
Enjoy our favorite Notebook moment, when Ryan and Rachel McAdams accepted the MTV Best Kiss award, below while you think it over!