Balancing a career and a relationship isn’t easy but someone has to do it! And just like anything that’s worth fighting for… it takes work to find the balance.
I have currently been with my significant other for over 15 years! Yikes… that’s hard to believe sometimes myself. And the entire time I’ve been with my husband TJ, I’ve been working. Not just working in WWE, but working for “something.” Whether it was at the small restaurant I worked at full time, wrestling independently, or I was just getting signed to a WWE contract.
The truth is, I love working. I love being an independent woman who makes her own money and has her own goals and dreams. I think that’s actually been one of the secrets of our lasting relationship is having my OWN goals to focus on. Plus, I enjoy sharing my aspirations with my husband or venting to him about what “went wrong!” And letting him be my shoulder to cry on or the person to celebrate my accomplishments with.
Even though TJ and I share the same passion, which is wrestling and working in the WWE, we have two different lives; and that helps us keep the balance.
We both like working out for example, but we also DON’T work out together. We go to the gym together when we have the chance… but I let TJ do his thing and he lets me do my thing. Then we get in the car and talk about what we did at the gym and discuss/strategize/brainstorm about what we could do better in our workouts. We talk about what we like… what’s working, and what isn’t.
TJ has also taught me that finding the balance is about give and take. Relationships aren’t 50/50. They’re 100/100. No one wants a half-baked cake! Lol! Listening is just as important as talking to each other. I often find myself telling TJ (or reminding him ha) I don’t need him to “fix it” … I just need him to listen! Let me get what I have to get off of my chest. AND I’ll do the exact same thing for him.
When TJ needs to express himself, whether he’s happy or sad or anything in between, I’ll let him beat a dead horse, as the saying goes. And in an hour if he wants to get it all out of his system again, I’m here! But TJ knows I expect the same out of him as he does with me. And that kind of communication really helps us so much. It’s helped us have a lasting relationship through working and the hectic life of being a superstar in the WWE.
We also find balance and peace in the simple things in life like enjoying a good meal together, watching our favorite show, listening to our favorite song or just playing with our cats and taking silly selfies together. I believe that if you can’t enjoy the little things you certainly won’t be able to enjoy the big things. And as we know, the little things are really the BIG things. You just have to be able to recognize them.