OK!'s 'Ask Heather' Advice Column: The 'RHOC' Star Answers Your Burning Q's Every Week


Apr. 8 2013, Published 7:30 a.m. ET

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Real Housewives of Orange County star, actress, mother, wife, and entrepreneur Heather Dubrow is dishing her best advice each week in our OK! column: Ask Heather!

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Last week we saw Heather host an amazing clambake for the ladies (which will continue on tonight's episode), so naturally Heather wanted to tackle your party etiquette q's—read on for her pearls of wisdom...

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Q:  If someone brings a very expensive hostess gift, are you expected to reciprocate with the same value? —@lori_antone

HD: It's always appropriate in my opinion, to bring something over when you’re invited to someone’s home. It doesn’t have to be a bottle of alcohol though—it can be a beautiful candle or a thank you note. Sometimes I don’t bring something and I send flowers the next day, or cupcakes. And I think that if someone brings you an expensive hostess gift, that’s very nice and maybe you remember that when you go to their house next time and bring them something special, but I don’t think it has to be of equal value.

For dressing your best...

Picking out what to wear for a black-tie affair is easy, but Heather says discussing outfit options with your guests is always acceptable hostess behavior no matter what type of party. If it's an outdoor event with an ocean breeze, Heather suggests telling guests to bring a sweater to mask the chill. If the party is taking place on grass, Heather says you should tell your guests to pick wedges over a heel that could potentially get stuck in the ground. 

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Q: Heather, why are you such an onion ring hater? —@britJgood

HD: I love onion rings. I think they’re fabulous. I actually really do, but I wanted the clambake be like like it is when we're in New York and we don’t serve onion rings.

Heather Dubrow

Heather has rules on cocktails too...

When it comes to cocktails, Heather says it's important to have a variety of different drinks, as people have different tastes and preferences and having your guests comfortable is extremely important. She always has red wine, white wine, beer, and a vodka-based drink on hand for her party guests and she suggests making room on your menu for one themed drink. If she's doing a taco night, she'll serve a mojito or sangria. 

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But don't just rely on the food and drink to keep a party going. Heather also says that having activities for your guests is very important. At the clambake, Heather had a company make photo flip books for her RHOC friends. 

As for seating...

Heather says one thing she'll do at a party is have the women at the table move seats after every course so part of the time you’re sitting with your spouse and part of the time you’re not. This keeps things fun and interesting, since you're always speaking to someone new.

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Don't miss the season premiere of The Real Housewives of Orange County TONIGHT on Bravo at 8/7 C and tweet your q's about dressing appropriately to @OKMagazine with the hashtag #OKAskHeather and she could answer you in next week's column!


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