PHOTOS‘I’ve Completely Failed:’ Jennifer Garner Shares Heartbreaking Way Kids Found Out About Nanny Cheating Scandal
Jennifer Garner Takes Her Kids To Church In The Rain
Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck’s divorce may be the worst of the high-profile divorces in celebrity history after he was caught with the nanny, Christine Ouzounian, but even more shocking than the cheating scandal is the way the actress’ family was impacted by the indiscretion.
“Let me just tell you something. We had been separated for months before I ever heard about the nanny. She had nothing to do with our decision to divorce. She was not a part of the equation," Garner, 43, told Vanity Fair. "Bad judgment? Yes. It’s not great for your kids for a nanny to disappear from their lives. I have had to have conversations about the meaning of ‘scandal.'"
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She continued: “People have pain — they do regrettable things, they feel shame, and shame equals pain. No one needs to hate him for me. I don’t hate him. Certainly we don’t have to beat the guy up. Don’t worry — my eyes were wide open during the marriage. I’m taking good care of myself.”
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“I’m a pretty hard worker. It’s one of the pains in my life that something I believe in so strongly I’ve completely failed at twice," she said, alluding to her first marriage to Scott Foley. "You have to have two people to dance a marriage. My heart’s a little on the tender side right now, and it’s always easier to focus on the ways that you feel hurt, but I know that, with time and some perspective, I’ll have a clearer sense of where I let the system down, because there’s no way I get off in this. I definitely put a lot of time towards my marriage that I will now have for myself. I don’t know how I will use that.”
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Garner said her biggest regret is that she “lost the dream of dancing with my husband at my daughter’s wedding,” but she finds her happiness in their three children—Violet, 10; Seraphina, 7; and Samuel, 3.
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“It’s not Ben’s job to make me happy,” she said. “The main thing is these kids — and we’re completely in line with what we hope for them. Sure, I lost the dream of dancing with my husband at my daughter’s wedding. But you should see their faces when he walks through the door. And if you see your kids love someone so purely and wholly, then you’re going to be friends with that person."
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But the most heartbreaking part of it all is that Jen admitted she still loves Ben, despite the divorce and the cheating.
Jennifer Garner Takes Her Kids To Church In The Rain
“I didn’t marry the big fat movie star; I married him,” the Miracles From Heaven actress said. “And I would go back and remake that decision. I ran down the beach to him, and I would again. You can’t have these three babies and so much of what we had. He’s the love of my life. What am I going to do about that? He’s the most brilliant person in any room, the most charismatic, the most generous. He’s just a complicated guy. I always say, ‘When his sun shines on you, you feel it.’ But when the sun is shining elsewhere, it’s cold. He can cast quite a shadow.”
