Michelle Obama has some tips for women looking for a Barack Obama of their own: Looks only go so far.

“Cute’s good. But cute only lasts for so long, and then it’s, ‘Who are you as a person?’ Don’t look at the bankbook or the title,” she says in the December issue of Glamour magazine.

“Look at the heart. Look at the soul…When you’re dating a man, you should always feel good…You shouldn’t be in a relationship with somebody who doesn’t make you completely happy and make you feel whole.”

In an interview with Katie Couric for the magazine, Michelle, 45, talks about her much-lauded fashion sense.

“People are always going to have opinions, and people have a right to their opinions, particularly when you’re the First Lady; you’re representing the nation,” says Michelle, mom to Sasha, 8, and 11-year Malia.

“So I can’t be surprised that people are interested. But I’ve tried to be at peace with the choices that I make first, and then be open to everyone else’s reflection.”

And how does a president’s wife stay sane?

“I have always tried to put my kids first, and then…put myself a really close second, as opposed to fifth or seventh. One thing that I’ve learned from male role models is that they don’t hesitate to invest in themselves.”