Mob Wives star Drita D’Avanzo is back to help with your problems! Check back every week for Drita’s distinct brand of tough-love advice, and you can even send in questions of your own! Just email firstname.lastname@example.org, or tweet @OKMagazine with the hashtag #OKAskDrita.
Hi Drita! My name is Amanda, I’m 32, and I live in Massachusetts. I have a new boyfriend who is very attractive and a few years older then me. He sees me about two times a week because of our work schedules. My concern is that he is constantly on his phone and when we hang out past 12:30am, his phone is blowing up with texts. He says it’s not women, but I feel like he isn’t being honest. He texts back when I go use the ladies room and quickly puts his phone back in his pocket as I return. Do I give him the benefit of the doubt or cut him loose? Thanks for reading my email and can’t wait to watch your show Mob Wives soon.
The problem with this is we always seem to jump to conclusions!! Well I know I have a habit of doing that. But anyway, in this situation you need to follow your instincts. It’s really a tough call. His phone is blowing up after 12? Ummm let’s see… is it possible that his friends are out and they are texting him? Yes, it’s possible. Could it be a girl he is seeing that is sending him late night texts? Yes, that’s possible too. He could also be responding to texts when you are in the bathroom because he doesn’t want to be rude, so he waits until you are not there.
I’m not trying to confuse you any more then you are already confused, but my advice to you is that you have to ask yourself questions. Like does he have single friends that he’s really close with and goes out with? Does he have a roommate? Who does he hang out with? Are his friends married? I’m not sure how long you guys have been dating but if it’s the beginning of the relationship I would say give him the benefit of the doubt and see how it goes. You didn’t catch him cheating on you. You are enjoying his company… so screw it! Don’t deprive yourself from having a good time and being in a relationship because of something that might be… could be… or might happen?
Don’t react unless there is something to react on. If your relationship is moving forward and you start to hang out more and you are familiar with his friends and you become serious, and it’s still a problem, then tell him how you feel. Put your foot down (and I mean put it down on his foot while you wear heels, lol. Just kidding). I know your friends and family are probably telling you he’s cheating, etc., but remember one thing. If he is cheating on you, THAT PHONE WOULD BE SHUT OFF!!! Not out on the table for him to be questioned about it. Cheaters are SNEAKY and paranoid. Good luck, Amanda, and remember your instinct is your best friend in life so follow it! Enjoy Season 5!!! Mob Wives will be on your TV soon!!! xoxo Drita
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