Pop princess Demi Lovato — who recently revealed they were non-binary — took to social media on Sunday to reflect on their complex relationship with late dad, Patrick, during an emotional Father’s Day post.
"Trying not to wake up sad… Trying to stay positive," they wrote via Instagram Story. "Today is always so difficult. This is for anyone else who's lost a father, can't be with their dad, didn't know their dad, or anyone who has a tough relationship with their dad," they continued, referring to her late dad who died in June 2013 after a long battle with cancer. "I spent many years on this holiday wondering whether or not I should call him.. take it from me, if you can, make the call."
The “Skyscraper" crooner continued: "Some days I regret not calling but other days I'm proud of myself for holding my boundary because I was doing what was best for me and my mental health. It's complicated, and I wish it were different but this made me into the person I am today. Anyway my heart goes out to the people still holding their boundaries as well."
Lovato has been open about their complicated relationship with their father, who they were estranged from due mostly in part to his history of abusive behavior towards the singer's mom, Dianna De La Garza.
In her 2018 memoir, Falling with Wings: A Mother’s Story, De La Garza wrote about the abuse she experienced during her marriage to Patrick, which ended in 1994.
"I thought I could change him, and I think victims of domestic abuse often feel the same way," she wrote. "You’re not always going to be able to change someone, no matter how much you want to,” she continued. Soon after her marriage ended to Patrick, De La Garza remarried her current husband, Eddie, whom Lovato gushed about in their heartbreaking Instagram post.
"To the man that raised me, I love you so much. Thank you @eddie.delagarza. Happy Father’s Day dad," they wrote alongside a photo of the two, which they deemed their "favorite pic of us together."