“Pamela is the first to admit that she’s had terrible luck with men because she very easily gets swept up in her feelings and ignores the warning signs,” explains the source.
That includes her roller-coaster relationship with Lee — the Mötley Crüe rocker, 59, served six months behind bars for battery in 1998 — which is portrayed in the new Hulu miniseries, Pam & Tommy.
“She’s confiding to friends that the show is a mere shadow of the truth, something she’s promised to share when the time is right,” dishes the source. “But that hasn’t stopped her from talking about how dark her time with Tommy truly was.”
When Anderson first hooked up with Hayhurst, hubby No. 4 and her former bodyguard and contractor at her Vancouver Island home, “he seemed like the total opposite of everyone she’d ever been with. Pamela just jumped into it with both feet,” the source spills. “But once she really got to know Dan, she saw a different side of him — a very unkind one — and it was pretty traumatic.”
While the Barb Wire actress has vowed to take some time to work on healing herself, “she hasn’t given up on finding her happily ever after,” the source adds. “Pamela loves being in love, and she’s a romantic through and through. Anyone who knows her knows this won’t be her last marriage!”
As for when the warning signs in her marriage to Hayhurst first started to show, an insider spilled the former flames realized they had nothing in common after quarantining together amid the coronavirus pandemic: "He was unkind and unsupportive. After you spent two years living every second with someone, you get to know them better — and for worse."