Cher has opened up about her confusion over daughter Chastity Bono‘s decision to undergo gender reassignment surgery to become a man who’s now called Chaz.
The singing legend tells Vanity Fair that she also feels great empathy for her son. “If I woke up tomorrow in a guy’s body, I would just kick and scream and cry and f****** rob a bank, because I cannot see myself as anything but who I am — a girl. I would not take it as well as Chaz has. I couldn’t imagine it.”
While Cher is proud of Chaz, she still gets confused. “She’s a very smart girl — boy! This is where I get into trouble. My pronouns are f*****. I still don’t remember to call her ‘him.’ ”
The singing legend has been open about her difficulties with her children Chaz, her son with Sonny Bono, and Elijah Blue, her son with the Allman Brothers’ Gregg Allman.
However, she says her relationship with her kids has improved. “I think Chaz is pretty much finished with it, and I think Elijah has a little longer to go, but they both really love me a lot. But it’s hard.”
“One time, when Chaz was little, we were on a field trip, and she said, ‘I’m so pissed off, Mom. You can never not be Cher — we can never just do something.’ ” She says, “So, your kids pay. I did the best I could do, and yet it was definitely lacking.”
Famous for her youth-defying outfits, the “If I Could Turn Back Time” singer, who’s starring with Christina Aguilera in the upcoming movie, Burlesque, says: “I think Meryl [Streep] is doing it great.
“The stupid b**** is doing it better than all of us! But I don’t like it. It’s getting in my way. I have a job to do, and it’s making my job harder.
“I’ve been screaming at the top of my lungs at my family, ‘Work out! Work out! Old age is coming!’ At some point you will need the strength. Who would have ever thought you would get this old?”
The 63-year-old comments on her children’s problems with drugs. “It’s weird, because both of my children had the same drug problems as their fathers — same drug of choice.
“My father was a heroin addict, and my sister’s father was an alcoholic. But it jumped us… I didn’t not do drugs because of moral issues. I tried a couple of drugs, but I never felt good out of control. I have the constitution of a fruit fly. I can’t do coffee, but I can do Dr Pepper.”
Cher also talks about her ex-husband Sonny Bono, who died in 1998, explaining that he treated her “more like a golden goose than like his wife… I forgive him, I think. He hurt me in so many ways, but there was something. He was so much more than a husband — a terrible husband, but a great mentor, a great teacher.”